It is all too easy for a vulnerable person to be taken advantage of when romance is involved. And it not only happens to the elderly. Control tactics often start slowly and progressively worsen as the relationship intensifies. Today, most people marry their approximate social equals and hypergamy was once redeemed by wealthy men seeking a virtuous ‘poor’ woman. But sometimes the tables turn and that less than virtuous man is looking to up his social status! If he is good-looking enough and has a smooth talking approach it might even work.


  • A controlling person isn’t always overtly threatening or aggressive. Sometimes they are emotionally manipulative and acting out of insecurity.
  • People of any age, gender, sexual orientation, or socioeconomic status can be in controlling relationships, playing either role.
  • Controlling tactics in a relationship include veiled threats, belittling or teasing, and using guilt as a tool for influence.

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Steve swept into Alexis’ life like a knight in shining armour, right after her Granny Mae had died and when Alexis was most vulnerable. She was grieving. Consumed with sorrow, Alexis vowed that she would love nevermore. But when Steve wrapped his arms around her those walls that protected her heart crumbled and fell. Steve was good looking in a rakish kind of way and Alexis welcomed him into her arms. It felt so good to be alive, to be loved, and Alexis ever so gradually pushed her grief aside, making it so easy to love once again. Very soon she became servile, compliant and submissive. To many it appeared that Alexis was a weak creature, a wife with no dreams of her own. She did her husband’s bidding and served him dutifully.

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