The fear of being disliked, unaccepted, rejected, shunned, ostracized or expelled from your social connectivity, is a strong motivator to not do certain things.
Nearly 20 million individuals at any one time suffer from some form of social anxiety. They fear being negatively evaluated in what they do; fear of being rejected; fear of being abandoned. At a primal level, this fear can be so great that we are not merely afraid of being embarrassed, or judged. We are afraid of being rejected from the social group, being singled out and criticized. This is a fear of being ridiculed and becoming an outcast.
Humans have a deep need to belong and are motivated by it to act in accordance with what promotes being accepted, being liked, etc.
Being ostracized and left to defend ourselves means we’re on our own. In the animal kingdom, ostracism is not only a form of social death, it also results in certain death.
Being rejected has severe consequences for us: depression, eating and promiscuity disorders. Even suicide attempts can result. Long term rejection can lead to resentment, anger and aggression.
The Fear of Ostracism Keeps People Stuck in Mediocrity
They conform instead of question.
They react instead of think.
They do what everyone else is doing,
forfeitoing their ingenuity and individuality.
Stand up for what is right:
- Comfort and growth cannot co-exist.
- People need to experience rejection and ostracism to become a better version of themselves.
- There is no progress without pain.
- Becoming extraordinary and achieving your true definition of success, means you will need to leave the majority.
- Even if you’re terrified.
Mankind was meant to slay dragons; grow and evolve by solving extremely difficult challenges, forcing you to become a better version of yourself. Leaving the herd can be painful – at first. Laugh in the face of rejection, criticism, and ostracism. Stand up – stand out.
“I used to walk into a room full of people and wonder if they liked me.
Now I wonder if I like them.”